Engagements

The long stretch between yes and the wedding

An engagement lasts a year and produces almost nothing to keep. Collect a page from everyone who is glad about it — how they found out, what they love about the two of them, what they know about being married.

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Everything gets saved for the wedding, so the engagement gets nothing

The proposal is photographed to death and then the whole year goes into logistics. By the time anything is made, it is a wedding album — and the wedding album is about one day, not about the year two families spent getting used to each other.

An engagement book catches that year while it is happening. Each person writes a page: how they heard, what they thought, the story about one of them from long before the other existed. Both sets of friends contribute to the same book, which is often the first thing the two circles do together.

It also takes pressure off the wedding itself. The people who will not make the guest list — the coworker, the college roommate three states away, the great-aunt who cannot travel — all get to say something, and nobody has to be seated.

A young couple sitting together looking through a photo book
Collected during the engagement, read long after the wedding is over.
How it works

Start it early, close it whenever suits

Unlike most occasions, there is no fixed date forcing this — pick one anyway.

STEP 1

Create the project

Both their names, a photo, the engagement date, and a deadline — the engagement party or the shower are natural ones.

STEP 2

Invite both sides

Two friend groups and two families, one link. Contributors open it and go, with no coordination between the circles.

STEP 3

Pages come in

Stories, photos and advice arrive and are arranged into finished pages. You review each before it is included.

STEP 4

Print it when you like

Order the hardcover for the party, or hold the project open through the engagement and print closer to the wedding.

Why this works for an engagement

It is the one moment when two separate histories are about to become one, and nobody usually writes any of it down.

Both circles in one book

Two friend groups who barely know each other contribute to the same place, without anyone having to introduce them.

The advice is worth having

Married friends and relatives, asked directly and privately, give better advice than anyone gives in a toast.

No guest list required

Anyone with the link can contribute, so people who will not be at the wedding still get to say something.

Old photos of each of them

Scans and phone pictures of prints are corrected on upload, so childhood and university photos of both of them sit well together.

Nothing to assemble

The layout engine builds each page, so planning a wedding does not also mean making a scrapbook.

A keepsake from the year, not the day

A 10-inch square matte hardcover about the engagement itself, which the wedding album will never cover.

Prompts worth putting in the invitation

Ask for the specific thing. “Congratulations” fills a page with nothing.

“How did you find out, and what did you do?”
“What did you think the first time you met them together?”
“A photo of one of them from before they met the other.”
“What nobody tells you about the first year of marriage.”
“What each of them brings out in the other.”
“What are you looking forward to at the wedding?”
Pricing

Free to collect, and the group can cover the printing

Nothing is owed until you order a book, and gifts from contributors apply straight to the print cost.

$0

To start and collect

Create the project, invite everyone, and gather photos and stories for free. You only pay if you print.

$34.95

Printed hardcover, 20 pages

A 10-inch square matte hardcover with matte interior pages, plus shipping. Extra pages are $1.25 each.

$1.25

Per gifted page

Friends and family can chip in toward printing — each $1.25 covers one page of the finished book.

Questions

Engagement memory book questions

Is this not just the wedding guest book early?

It covers different ground. A wedding guest book is signed on the day by the people in the room. This collects the engagement — how people found out, what they think of the two of them together, advice about marriage — from anyone, months in advance.

When should we print it?

Either at the engagement party, or closer to the wedding with the whole engagement collected. The project stays open until you close it, so you can also print a PDF for the party and a hardcover later.

Who usually makes it?

Most often a maid of honor, a best man, a sibling or a parent, as a gift to the couple. It also works as something the couple makes themselves and shares as the engagement goes on.

Can people who are not invited to the wedding contribute?

Yes, and that is one of the better reasons to do it. Anyone with the link can add a page whether or not they are on the guest list.

What will it cost?

A hardcover is $34.95 for the first 20 pages, then $1.25 for each page after that, plus shipping. Thirty contributors comes to about $47.45. The PDF is free.

Can both families have a copy?

Yes — additional copies of the same book can be ordered, which is usual when both sides want one.

Related pages

Other occasions people build books for.

Catch the year, not just the day

Start the project, send the link to both sides, and give them something the wedding album will never cover.

Start an engagement book